We return to the book that started the Village Book Group. For the third time we will discuss The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs.
For this book group we will aim to discuss the way forward from shame. Trying to focus on the second half of the book and ask ourselves: is stage three ever achievable or something to work towards??
If this sounds odd to you, it will all make sense once you read the book. This book is a must read and we have found ourselves recommending it to all our Gay friends.
We will move beyond a discussion about the books writing/style/author and focus more at the message and the advice given.
"The gay male world today is characterized by seductive beauty, artful creativity, flamboyant sexuality, and, encouragingly, unprecedented acceptability in society. Yet despite the progress of the recent past, gay men still find themselves asking, "Are we really better off?" The inevitable byproduct of growing up gay in a straight world continues to be the internalization of shame, a shame gay men may strive to obscure with a façade of beauty, creativity, or material success. Drawing on contemporary psychological research, the author's own journey to be free of anger and of shame, as well as the stories of many of his friends and clients, The Velvet Rage outlines the three distinct stages to emotional well-being for gay men. Offering profoundly beneficial strategies to stop the insidious cycle of avoidance and self-defeating behavior, The Velvet Rage is an empowering book that will influence the public discourse on gay culture, and positively change the lives of gay men who read it."
The book is only available in English. Leider.
Open to all gay, bi, trans, queer men.
Enjoy reading and see you on 7th May!
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